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Anonymous said: What makes me angriest about cultural appropriation is that white people can use my culture without having to face any repercussions but I can't wear traditional clothing or even speak in my native language without "me love you long time" and "yellow fever" comments. I can't embrace my culture without it being seen as inherently sexual while a white woman can wear a qipao and it's just an innocent game of dress up. I actually have to worry about sexual assault when I want to express my culture.

3 hours ago
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Any of my followers know how getting a driver’s license out of state works?

Do I NEED to do it in Louisiana, or could I do it in Mississippi for free and then just transfer it to LA?

1 day ago
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Is this what it’s like to love someone who actually loves you back?

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If you are 35 or younger - and quite often, older - the advice of the old economy does not apply to you. You live in the post-employment economy, where corporations have decided not to pay people. Profits are still high. The money is still there. But not for you. You will work without a raise, benefits, or job security. Survival is now a laudable aspiration.

Quoted from Sarah Kendzior’s “Surviving the Post-Employment Economy

“In the United States, nine percent of computer science majors are unemployed, and 14.7 percent of those who hold degrees in information systems have no job. Graduates with degrees in STEM - science, technology, engineering and medicine - are facing record joblessness, with unemployment at more than twice pre-recession levels. The job market for law degree holders continues to erode, with only 55 percent of 2011 law graduates in full-time jobs. Even in the military, that behemoth of the national budget, positions are being eliminated or becoming contingent due to the sequester.

It is not skills or majors that are being devalued. It is people.”

Her work is frank, speaking of a reality I hope that will never be mine. At the same time, it gives me a strange comfort to know that I am not alone.

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I will always reblog this quote.  Hits way too close to home for me.

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The most salient part of this, to me, is the underscoring of the fact that there is no “right” college major where you’re guaranteed a job forever. Conservatives love to pretend college graduates working minimum-wage or freelance jobs just didn’t “pick the right major” - those foolish fools studied the arts or literature or something else frivolous, so they deserve crushing debt and no job security! No. There is no magical college major that will let you sidestep the jobless recovery.

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unbreakablesteven said: I'm not a porn blog. I post what I like and it just so happens that I like women, cars and watches. I understand your zero tolerance for a specific group of bloggers. But I'm pretty sure you fight for equality for women. Why can you treat others with equally? No matter if there's naked women on our blog. You shouldn't judge people so quickly or treat them badly.

nextyearsgirlisaghostnow:

bbrightstar:

If you notice, I am not judging the women in the pictures. I am judging you for objectifying and sexualizing their bodies. Unfortunately I care more about liberating women from men than I do about your orgasms or what you “just so happen to like”. You are not my priority. I fight for liberation, not “equality”.

BRO YOU LITERALLY PUT WOMEN AS A THING YOU LIKE IN A LIST WITH OTHER MATERIAL CONSUMABLE OBJECTS YOU ARE NOT FOOLING ANYONE.

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bshalloffame:

NO. NO. NO. NO. THIS MAKES ME SO ANGRY.
first of all, bipolar is nothing like hormones at all. bipolar causes long stages of mania and depression. your mood doesn’t just change all the time, that’s a huge stupid fucking myth perpetuated by people like you that don’t know shit about psychology. you go through long phases, weeks at a time, of mania, depression, or both. nobody gets diagnosed with bipolar because they have hormones. as someone who’s bipolar that offends the fuck out of me.
secondly, the reason mental disorders are getting diagnosed more in children is because we’re more aware now of what constitutes disordered behavior. guess what? that “loner” is probably suffering a lot. in 1980 he was probably suffering a lot too, but no one bothered to diagnose him because he was just “being a kid” or whatever the fuck you call it and because people didn’t take depression seriously.
people are occasionally misdiagnosed, but increased awareness and diagnosis in childhood has resulted in so many children that could’ve had much more difficult childhoods getting the help they need. it is so much better to diagnose more than less, because people getting no help for years of their life or even being told they don’t have a disorder and thinking that for the rest of their life and never getting any help at all is so much more of a problem than not “preserving childhood” or whatever the fuck you’re worried about. we’re talking many people’s entire lives being on the line. that’s much more important than your nostalgia-obsessed bullshit.
the rates of diagnosis have increased because there’s more awareness. more people that really need help are being diagnosed and helped because of it. parents are actually taking their children to get psychological evaluation now. and you know who diagnoses them? psychologists WHO HAVE BEEN STUDYING THE SUBJECT FOR YEARS. do you really think you know more than them about what disorders a kid has??? who the fuck made you an authority on psychology that’s somehow better than a person with a fucking college degree in it??? i know you’re all afraid of anything changing and so you try to find a way to make it evil and wrong but you don’t know shit about this subject and you’ve never studied it at all, so take this pretentious bullshit and shove it up your ass.

bshalloffame:

NO. NO. NO. NO. THIS MAKES ME SO ANGRY.

first of all, bipolar is nothing like hormones at all. bipolar causes long stages of mania and depression. your mood doesn’t just change all the time, that’s a huge stupid fucking myth perpetuated by people like you that don’t know shit about psychology. you go through long phases, weeks at a time, of mania, depression, or both. nobody gets diagnosed with bipolar because they have hormones. as someone who’s bipolar that offends the fuck out of me.

secondly, the reason mental disorders are getting diagnosed more in children is because we’re more aware now of what constitutes disordered behavior. guess what? that “loner” is probably suffering a lot. in 1980 he was probably suffering a lot too, but no one bothered to diagnose him because he was just “being a kid” or whatever the fuck you call it and because people didn’t take depression seriously.

people are occasionally misdiagnosed, but increased awareness and diagnosis in childhood has resulted in so many children that could’ve had much more difficult childhoods getting the help they need. it is so much better to diagnose more than less, because people getting no help for years of their life or even being told they don’t have a disorder and thinking that for the rest of their life and never getting any help at all is so much more of a problem than not “preserving childhood” or whatever the fuck you’re worried about. we’re talking many people’s entire lives being on the line. that’s much more important than your nostalgia-obsessed bullshit.

the rates of diagnosis have increased because there’s more awareness. more people that really need help are being diagnosed and helped because of it. parents are actually taking their children to get psychological evaluation now. and you know who diagnoses them? psychologists WHO HAVE BEEN STUDYING THE SUBJECT FOR YEARS. do you really think you know more than them about what disorders a kid has??? who the fuck made you an authority on psychology that’s somehow better than a person with a fucking college degree in it??? i know you’re all afraid of anything changing and so you try to find a way to make it evil and wrong but you don’t know shit about this subject and you’ve never studied it at all, so take this pretentious bullshit and shove it up your ass.

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http://lesbian-lily.tumblr.com/post/98709882533/staininyourbrain-dirkbot-things-they-dont

lesbian-lily:

abuseexcuse:

staininyourbrain:

dirkbot:

things they don’t show you in porn:

  • elbowing each other in the face
  • leg cramps
  • queefing
  • accidentally pulling each other’s hair
  • ass pubes

things they also don’t show in porn:

  • sleepy morning sex
  • mutual giggle fits over awkward situations
  • sex…

I think this post also reveals that people are getting their sex education from porn.
Which is not okay because rape =/= sex and violence =/= love

And I think, maybe the choice bit, and the not wanting to just eliminate porn bit, is because it’s where people are going to learn about sexual behavior.

Which is terrifying.

I know that’s what I did as a kid, because no one would even engage me in conversation about sexual relationships and love or anything.

Exactly and it is so terrifying that that’s where so many people get their sex education from.  I’m a youth worker (when I’m actually working) and some of the things I’ve heard from young people over the years (both in mainstream youth work, feminist youth work and youth work with young lesbian and bisexual women) has been so incredibly scary.

Sex education anywhere and everywhere is just abysmal and it really, seriously needs to be improved because if so many young people are turning to pornography for their sex education then all that’s happening is that young men are learning that women are objects, ‘enjoy’ violence and rape and are there for their entertainment; young women are learning that violence and rape are expressions of love and that their only worth is based on how ‘fuckable’ they are and the effect of pornography on young LGB people, especially on young lesbian and bisexual women (considering the incidences of men coming in and ‘converting’/correctively raping lesbians)  is just as harmful even if it doesn’t always quite work in the same way as hetero porn. 

Pornography as an industry is just so fucking harmful and it really does just need to be eliminated; the harm that it does to the women involved, the harm that it does to the people watching it and the harm that it does to the people in their lives is just so pervasive and so disgusting, it really, really just needs to be all shut down, completely.  There’s no such thing as ‘good’ porn or ‘moral’ porn or ‘ethical’ porn because at the end of the day they all give the same message; it all treats women like objects and diminishes their worth based solely on their ‘fuckability’.

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musicals-are-punk-rock:

support nonbinary people who aren’t completely androgynous

support femme trans men

support masculine trans women

just because someone doesn’t fit into the stereotype of their identity doesn’t mean they aren’t valid

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